Girls Not Brides

“If you educate a man you educate an individual, but if you educate a woman you educate a family (nation).” I have picked this up from African Proverb of the Month September, 1999. And, there “If you educate a man, you educate an individual. If you educate a woman, you educate a family” is from an article entitled “the importance of education in breaking the walls of gender inequality” published on February 2017.

Long time back when I used to come home from India to Nepal in holidays, I heard from a person called K.B. Gurung who used to be a teacher in a Nepali Public School run by the Government. He used to say that children follows mother. Therefore, it is vital that mother should be educated to educate children. I did not care and asked more about it. But, there were many examples around that those children who were ignoring going to school and did not value education had weak education background linking with their mothers. I had compared myself at the movement where both of my parents were well educated.

Now, since concentrating the development perspectives and when Console Mission is unto it, I have been looking the Villages and the females of the areas and as I was alerting the Village Representatives, various types of cases that is invented and that we have been dealing with. It is challenging to intervene directly. A

Fig. 1.: Females of all age listening the importance of their role to calm every situations. (CM DRT)

nd, it is irrelevant because culture is priority than education. It is not only the rural areas or the socially discriminated or disadvantaged but, even in a well managed family or urban settlement have stories “when girls are proposed for marriage”. It is not fortunate to reject the marriage proposal. There are many girls who do not want to get married. They want to take care of children who do not have parents. There are girls who want to complete study and serve for the country because Nepal is an underdeveloped country. And, there are girls who agrees to get married because they are threatened or they are emotionally pushed to make decision. To do this, they were assured to allow continuing going to school. But, that rarely happened and happens because after getting married, they have multiple responsibilities. Moreover, girls even after getting married keeps close attachments with their paternal house.

This proves me that girls certainly who is going to be a mother needs quality life from their early age. Both physically and emotionally they needs an environment. And, this is not only the responsibility of a family (father and mother) but, whole nation should give priority that they will have an environment to grow perfectly. According to the Nepali society, the fifth and last day of Tihar (the second biggest festival) is called Bhai Tika or Kija Puja. It is observed by sisters applying tika to the foreheads of their brothers to ensure long life and thank them for the protection they provide. It is believed that Yamraj, the God of Death, visited his sister, Goddess Yamuna, on this day during which she applied the auspicious tika on his forehead, garlanded him and fed him special dishes. Together, they ate sweets, talked and enjoyed themselves to their hearts’ content. Upon parting, Yamraj gave Yamuna a special gift as a token of his affection and, in return, Yamuna gave him a lovely gift which she had made with her own hands. That day Yamraj announced that anyone who receives tilak from his sister will never die on that day.

These are the concepts relating to female but, the Nepali society is backward in respecting and providing good environment for their daughter, sister and mother. It is happening because of the financial situation. And, since now there are agencies providing fund and facilities, there are children waiting to get married either by themselves or from their parents and in situation of boys they left school and working in restaurants or at factories waiting until they reach 18 so that they could get passport and go abroad for work. In this situation and reference to the facilities, these children needs self-awareness, a thirst to complete their school education. This concept is based on the studies and Console Mission have developed project relevant to it. One most essential is that if such emotion is developed, children will be able to tackle the situation on their own. When they could run away from home with someone whom she love, why could not she run away when she is forced for marriage to the places (and there are many places) where they could get shelter. But, it will be healthy when this situation could be managed. And, Console Mission thinks that it has a plan that could hit such situation and manage the possibilities.